Most people want to be the ‘darling of the crowd’. This is something though that you really need to examine for yourself. For instance, if you want to be the center of attraction because this is the only way you can validate your worth, then this is not positive at all because it means you derive your meaning from other people.

This is however different from being ’socially empowered’, where people naturally gravitate to your aura and energy. In this situation, your self-confidence is the one that attracts all the others (as opposed to gaining self-confidence via the response of others to you).

So, why would you want to be socially empowered anyway?

Most socially-empowered people are successful; because they conduct themselves extremely well in social situations, other people look at them as their natural ‘best friend’… which they would likely to help at all times.

For example, if you’re social skills are good, then people see you as a HAPPY, ENERGETIC and above all, a CAPABLE person. They will more likely to help and assist you in your endeavors.

Of course, make no mistake, others will ask for your help too but nothing in this world is ever gained by just ‘taking’. It’s always a give and take situation and people are morely liekly to share, give to you, and help you on your way to success if you are socially adept.

So how do you develop great social skills?

The first thing you need to work at is yourself. Are you too shy? If so, then you need to start hanging out with other people more. This is the only way you can start training yourself be comfortable with others in social situations and for your personality to blossom.

You don’t need to take up public speaking! Start slow. Initiate and invite a friend or two for coffee. Work it up to a casual lunch of dinner and move on from there.

If, on the other hand, you’re a bit well, grouchy, then you need to work on that temper and demeanor too. Let’s face it, no one likes to be next to someone with a permanent frown on his/her face or someone who’s always focusing on the negative aspects of everything.

To start changing this, here’s something that doesn’t cost much: start to SMILE more! If you find yourself thinking of something negative about something or someone, stop that thought immediately. Instead, think of what’s GOOD about it or that person and focus on that.

I’ll provide more tips to be ’socially empowered’ in my next post!

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