Yesterday, I started to discuss how you and your partner can get over relationship obstacles easier. I began with some basic fundamentals or facts that you and your partner should… well, accept really because it never really is HIS FAULT or HER FAULT alone.

Following are a few more tips that will hopefully help you both see you through a rough patch and so you both stay motivated in your relationship.

Ask Yourself What You Did Wrong… and What You Could Do Right

As I mentioned before, relationship problems are oftentimes born out of two shortcomings coming together. So take a step back and examine what you may have done to aggravate the situation. And then – more importantly – what you can do now to make things right soon.

A lot of people in a relationship don’t want to ‘give in’ to the other. Most of the time, this is because they are afraid that they will look weak to the other so they ‘toughen up’ and don’t give in, waiting for the other to make the first move.

Well, in the end, all this really does accomplish is extend the negative situation, right?

So, seriously, consider making the first move to make up. The sooner you guys are happy together again, the better!

More Moving Forward Tips…

Let’s assume you guys are ok now. Try to learn from this recent relationship obstacle. Often, such challenges reveal that you need to have more time for each other and that you need to improve your communicate with one other. So try the following.

• Make sure there’s at least one ‘date night’ every week. It doesn’t need to be extravagant; a movie, a walk to the nearest cafe; a dinner at your local pub; whatever. The point is to have ‘alone time’.
• Try to have at least one sit-down, special dinner at home once a week. It’s important to have this sense of wanting to do something special for your partner (and vice versa) at least once a week. Most couples find that they actually look forward to these nights more than they think they would when they started.
• Look around for new hobbies you can pick up together. A couple I’m friends with decided to buy a Wii console and realized they were having so much fun playing with each other and spending time together.
• Plan a long weekend away together at least every other month. Not only do you need time to be together but you need time to be AWAY from the daily grind of things.
• Be more experimental when it comes to intimacy. A lot of couples who’ve been together for awhile find that they settle into a certain ‘routine’. This often paves the way for boredom and so it’s easier to reach for a book or watch TV than to be intimate. Spice things up in that department by trying new things and techniques and you’ll surely strengthen your bond.

These are stressful times and the one thing that you should strive to ensure is stable is your personal relationship. It should be a strong foundation to tide you throw whatever it is that life throws your ways.