For some reason, shyness is looked at as a not-so-serious characteristic. But as they say ‘everything in life must be in moderation’. That is, a little shyness is ok but when it gets in the way of your development as a person, then it’s time you got over your overt shyness.

For instance, if you are overly shy, then you will be perceived at work as ‘weak’ or incapable of getting things done and this will get in the way of achieving success at work. The same goes for relationships; if you don’t make it known what you want… somebody else will take what you desire.

So let’s address how you can overcome your shyness, shall we?

Firstly, improve your appearance. A lot of people say that changing the way you look is not accepting yourself. This is BS. Just a quick look at make-over programs at TV will tell you that oftentimes, not so fashionably dressed people are simply lost at how to dress up and look good in public.

And no, changing their hairstyle and putting on more fashionable clothes DO NOT mean they are betraying themselves. In fact, it’s a way to make your outer self reveal the real you inside.

Again, notice how people look younger and ooze a more magnetic and energetic personality after a make-over. Now do the same to for yourself!

You don’t need to hire a fashion consultant, just ask your friends! Look at what other people of the same age are wearing. Walk into a hair salon and ask the stylist what would look good on you.

Improving your appearance will be a DRAMATIC lift to your self-esteem so go for it!

Secondly,  develop your social skills. Now that you’re more confident with the way you look, it’s time to put yourself out there. Don’t run away from social functions, try to slowly be part of them.

If you’re afraid of not knowing what to say, go online and check the latest news and gossip on the internet. Watch the news, and yes, commenting on the weather is still a good opening phrase in any discussion!

Practice. One way you can slowly practice your social skills is to practice at home or at smaller gatherings. For instance, invite a few family members or a few very close friends for coffee. You can also attend a gathering of a club whose topic is very interesting to you. This way, you’ll be more comfortable taking part in the discussion because you are well versed in the topic.

Focus simply on what’s being said. Don’t worry too much about what may happen or what the other person is thinking while you are talking. Simply SPEAK and be in the moment.

Good luck!